79. Understanding coercive control (Part 1): Why most professionals miss it
The Post-Separation Abuse PodcastShow Notes
Why do family lawyers, mediators, report writers and even judges keep missing what might be painfully obvious to you - that this isn’t “high conflict,” it’s coercive control? And why does that mislabel put your children in danger? In this episode, Danielle Black breaks down the core reason the family law system consistently fails to recognise coercive control: it’s using the wrong framework. While professionals are trained to look for incidents, coercive control is a pattern - and one that di...
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