Taming the Inner Critic: How to Turn Self-Attack into Self-Support with Loch Kelly
A New Way of BeingShow Notes
What if your harshest inner critic isn’t the enemy, but a confused part of you that’s desperately trying to keep you safe? In this episode, I speak with Loch Kelly – non-dual teacher and psychotherapist – about how to transform self-attack into genuine inner support. We explore: Why big spiritual openings don’t automatically heal shame, anger or insecurity How the inner critic is actually a protective part, not a defect The trap Loch calls the “witness protection programme” – when mindfulness makes you numb, not free How to relate to fear, shame and anger with real compassion, without bypassing Moving from head to heart and living from what Loch calls awake loving flow Loch also guides a couple of short “glimpses” you can follow along with, to experience this shift directly as you listen. If you’ve done “the work” but still feel hijacked by your inner critic, this one’s for you.
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