Show Notes
Like many psychotherapists, my practice is deeply centred on the concept of integration: the work of bringing the fragmented parts of ourselves together to feel whole. Yet, in that pursuit, we often neglect or suppress the erotic part of our identity.
Join therapist Sergio Rebelo, as he meets people who have learned to embrace their erotic selves and bring that authenticity into their daily lives. For some, this can be an incredibly difficult task, as we often hold a lot of stigma and shame around the things that turn us on.
The Erotic Life Podcast is for anyone kinky at heart or simply curious about their own desires. Discover what it truly means to live an integrated life, because when we make contact with Eros, we don't just release that energy into the bedroom, but into all parts of our existence. Contact with the erotic promises to fuel our lives so we can feel switched on always, finally, fully integrated. Launching mid 2026.
Sergio Rebelo Contact: [email protected]
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