It's Been a Minute

'Anxious attachment' is popular. But is it real?

It's Been a Minute

Show Notes

Attachment theory is having a moment online.

It’s the concept that the relationship we have with our parents directly impacts how we relate to and interact with others, especially people we’re in relationships with. Are we anxious? Are we avoidant? Can this be the reason we keep getting our hearts broken? We’re joined by friend of the podcast and our guide to the modern dating world, NPR producer Manuela Lopez Restrepo; Dr. Marisa G. Franco, author of Worth: The New Science of Self Esteem and Secure Attachment; and Tatum Hunter, journalist and content creator, to understand the science behind attachment theory and what everybody keeps getting wrong.

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