Show Notes
Tiny things should not feel this big. But in a neurodivergent marriage, they can . Jheri South, ADHD educator and mom of seven neurodivergent kids, sits down with her husband Brad South, who is on the autism spectrum, to play “Same Team, Different Brains.” What starts as a fun rapid fire game quickly reveals why ADHD and autism can clash over plan changes, shutdowns, overwhelm, reassurance, and communication.
Brad needs time and space when stressed. Jheri needs clarity and conversation. One brain shuts down. The other processes out loud. Neither is wrong, but without understanding the wiring, it can feel personal. This episode shows how to stop misreading each other and start translating each other instead.
Chapters (00:00) Introduction (01:37) When Plans Change Last Minute, My Brain… (02:33) When I’m Overwhelmed, I Need… Not… (06:28) When I’m Stressed, It Looks Like… (12:40) One Thing That Resets My Nervous System (15:37) When I Need Support, I Want… (18:28) A “Simple” Situation That Feels Heavy (24:30) If You Want to Communicate With Me Better… (22:01) The Warning Label on My Brain
Are you and your partner wired the same way, or does it feel like two totally different brains? Let me know in the comments.
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