
317 — The Goal You Keep Setting and Not Following Through On? Here's What's Actually Wrong With Bestselling Author Chris Bailey
Mentally Stronger with Therapist Amy MorinShow Notes
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Do you ever set a goal you genuinely cared about — get healthier, write the book, finally save money — and two weeks later you can't make yourself take any action? Even when you have motivation and a good plan, sometimes, the action doesn't happen.
Closing the gap between what you intend to do and what you actually do has far less to do with trying harder than you'd expect, and far more to do with a smarter approach.
My guest today is Chris Bailey, a productivity expert and the bestselling author of Intentional. He draws on years of research — and conversations with Buddhist monks — to explain what actually moves us from intention to action, and why forcing yourself is the least effective tool you have.
Some of the things we discuss are:
The reason your goal keeps turning into disappointment and the one word Chris uses to describe what a goal actually is
The simple subtraction problem happening in your brain every time you choose the couch over the goal
How to conduct an "aversion audit"
The five things that make a task feel impossible to start and why naming them is half the battle
Why the early-rising, tea-drinking version of you in your head is sabotaging you and what the research says about whether 5am people are actually more successful
The 12 values and how to instantly tell if a goal is even yours
What it means when you can't connect a goal to anything you value — and the uncomfortable truth about whose goal it might be
Why guilt isn't the enemy and what it's actually trying to tell you
My three favorite strategies that will help you start to get more intentional today
Related Episodes
194 — The Science of Small Wins: Why They Matter More Than Big Goals
112 — These 7 Tiny Changes That Lead to Big Results When You’re Working on Your Goals
Links & Resources
Intentional
Take the Values Test
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