A Double Life

Jessica Ella - "I was programmed to love him"

A Double Life

Show Notes

Trigger warning: sexual abuse and childhood trauma

Jessica Ella reveals how years of abuse by her father from age three reshaped her idea of love. At thirty, a guided meditation brought back memories she had long pushed aside and began the process of healing. She speaks about generational trauma, the fear that followed, moments of hearing him when he wasn’t there, and the steady support of her mother.

Now a women’s trauma expert and mother to River and Banjo, Jessica shares how she broke unhealthy patterns in relationships, found safe love with her partner Gav, and rebuilt her identity step by step. Her story is raw and deeply hopeful, showing that even after profound pain it is possible to heal, reclaim your life, and create real love and purpose.

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