Wired for Desire: Attachment Style, Emotional Safety & the Truth About Intimacy
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Growing up, very few of us had kitchen table conversations about how vulnerability builds intimacy. Instead, most of us were handed a survival guide that taught us to "never let them see you sweat" and to "be strong." As a result, walking into adult relationships and talking intimately about our attachment styles and desires can be terrifying. Yet, finding the courage to share our true desires—free from shame or fear—transforms not just our sex lives, but deepens the connection with our partners and ourselves.
*This episode explores human sexuality and is intended for mature listeners.
For tips on how to bring attachment theory into the bedroom, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two emotionally focused therapists and co-authors, Laurie Watson, PhD, LMFT, and George Faller, LMFT.
Laurie and George dive into what it takes to stay vulnerable and keep the spark alive for the long haul. They share expert strategies to help couples break free from the exhausting pursue-withdrawal cycle and reconnect on a deeper level.
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