EP.14 Awe vs. Consumption: The Difference Between Lust and Healthy Desire with Andrew Bauman
Dating and Desire PodcastShow Notes
Therapist and author Andrew Bauman joins Bridgett and Lauren to explore embodiment, sexual story work, and what it really looks like to grow into healthy, connected relationships. Together, they name the difference between understanding your story and actually experiencing healing, and why the body often carries what insight alone cannot resolve. It is a thoughtful look at how awareness, formation, and lived experience all work together in the process of change. Andrew also shares his framework for how porn can shape patterns of relating over time, along with what it looks like to move toward greater integrity, connection, and wholeness in how men relate to themselves and to women. This conversation offers a clear and compassionate lens on dating, especially for women learning how to discern what is real in a partner. What to pay attention to, what genuinely reflects growth, and how to stay connected to your own sense of clarity and trust along the way.
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About AndrewFounder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma (CCC), Dr. Andrew J. Bauman is a licensed mental health counselor with a Doctorate from Northeastern University. His dissertation was on studying the impact of sexism and abuse on women in the Protestant Church. Andrew is the author of seven books, his newest book is called SAFE CHURCH: What Women Can Teach Us about Sexism, Abuse and Safety within Christian Community.
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