Ep 27: Letting Go of Other People's Not-So-Helpful Feedback

Ep. 27: Letting Go of Other People’s Not-So-Helpful Feedback

Have you ever had someone say something about your voice that you just can’t seem to shake?

A teacher. A director. A parent. A colleague. A reviewer. Maybe even someone you love.

Sometimes it’s useful feedback that landed badly. Sometimes it was an offhand comment. And sometimes it was just plain unhelpful.

But years later, you’re still carrying it.

And sometimes someone else’s opinion becomes your inner voice.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to become more discerning about the feedback you receive so you can take what’s useful without taking on the shame, fear, or story that came along with it.

We’ll explore:

Why we can mistake other people’s opinions for facts

How old comments can shape the way we sing today

The difference between feedback about your singing and someone defining who you are as a singer

How to separate the facts from the stories our minds create

How to ask, “Is there anything useful here?”

Why you can learn from criticism without beating yourself up

How to recognize voices in your head that may not actually belong to you

And how to decide what you want to carry forward and what you’re ready to leave behind

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