Show Notes
Love hurts. Love heals. Love is blind. Love conquers all. So which is it? And should you give your whole life over to finding that one special person, or treat romance as just one part of a full life? This week on Becoming You, Suzy takes on the value of romantic love, or Belovedness: how much you want to organize your life around one special person. This is part of our 16-episode series on the values that drive how we live, and the data on it might change how you think about love. Suzy shares how Americans actually rank romance right now, and why the answer looks very different depending on whether you’re married, divorced, or single. Then she goes back in time, with a surprising history of marriage and the idea that the version of romance we’re all raised on is a very recent invention. Then dating and relationship coach Sabrina Zohar, author of the new book Why Am I Like This?, joins Suzy to talk about the state of dating in 2026, why so many people have lost hope, and what happened when she stopped waiting to be chosen and started choosing. And Suzy closes with a personal story about love, loss, and the value she almost left out entirely. Take the Values Bridge to find out where Belovedness falls for you. Link and discount code below. Find Sabrina Zohar’s new book “Why Am I Like This? Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create The Life You Want” here, find her on Instagram, and listen to her podcast The Sabrina Zohar Show. As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge. You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the Becoming You newsletter for fresh new content in one tidy package. Want more Becoming You? Check out the Becoming You book. You can follow and tag Suzy on: • Instagram: @suzywelch • Linkedin: @suzywelch • TikTok: @suzywelch • YouTube: @suzywelch_ • X: @SuzyWelch
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