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How to fight with your co-founder with Ian Schmidt, Trimergence

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Show Notes

Every founding team is a mix of personalities, communication styles, and strengths. That can be a superpower or cause founders to butt heads. Without a clear framework for navigating conflict, even the strongest teams can fall apart before they really get started.

This week on Build Mode, Isabelle Johannessen sits down with Ian Schmidt, strategic advisor at Trimergence, to unpack the “personal operating system” behind every founder. As a coach, consultant, and occasionally a bouncer, Ian helps teams build the self-awareness and relational tools they need to scale without unnecessary friction.

They discuss:

Why founders should invest in coaching before conflict escalates

How to repair after conflict goes sideways

The importance of understanding your own triggers as a leader

How to create space for the self-work that actually saves time long-term

Following last week’s episode on family co-founders, this conversation expands those lessons into practical tools any founding team can use.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why Conflict Isn’t the Problem

02:18 The Founder Operating System

04:21 Why Co-Founders Clash

05:34 How to Map Your Personal OS

10:26 Start Early or Pay Later

16:59 Frameworks for Navigating Conflict

23:32 Relationships, Loneliness & Support Systems

31:15 Identity, Habits & Scaling Yourself

New episodes of Build Mode drop every Thursday. Hosted by Isabelle Johannessen. Produced and edited by Maggie Nye. Audience development led by Morgan Little. Special thanks to the Foundry and Cheddar video teams.

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