Show Notes
What if the promises we make in love are setting us up to fail?
In this episode, John Kim is joined by his wife, Vanessa Bennett, to explore how redefining the promises we make in relationships could change the way we love. Instead of focusing on "forever," they discuss commitments rooted in personal growth, accountability, respect, and the willingness to keep doing the inner work, even when relationships evolve or come to an end.
In this episode, you'll hear about:
• Why "forever" may not be the healthiest relationship promise
• How unspoken agreements contribute to betrayal and resentment
• The importance of owning your own patterns and projections
• Why love requires growth instead of staying the same
• What it means to create corrective love experiences
• How new promises can lead to healthier relationships
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🔗 Resources & Links
👉 Apply to Inner Compass Academy: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy
👉 Follow Vanessa on Instagram @vanessasbennett
👉 Author of “The Motherhood Myth” Buy the Book Here: https://www.amazon.com/Motherhood-Myth-Reimagining-Expectations-Partnership/dp/1649633416
🎙️ More about John:
📘 My latest book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. HERE
John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co
📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John’s book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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