Therapy Thursdays | Why You’re Stuck, What Real Intimacy Feels Like & Letting Go Without Closure
The Angry Therapist PodcastShow Notes
Why do we remain stuck in the same patterns, compare ourselves to our partner’s past, or wait for an ex to give us closure?
In Episode 26 of Therapy Thursdays, John answers your most personal questions about identity, intimacy, insecurity, attachment and relationships. He explains why meaningful change requires us to let go of an old version of ourselves - and why the familiar can feel safe even when it is making us unhappy.
He also explores what true intimacy looks like after the performance falls away, how to respond when a partner asks for space, and what couples are really trying to communicate beneath everyday arguments. From protest behaviour and defensiveness to breakups, reconciliation and the need for an apology, this episode is about recognising what is happening underneath the surface.
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