Show Notes
This week, West End performer Jaime Tait joins me for part one of a two-part conversation. Jaime and I went to drama school together when we were just 21 and so I thought I knew him. This conversation opened up a whole new side to jaime that I had never seen and I'm truly grateful for this honesty and wisdom. We go back to growing up in Birmingham as one of seven, what was expected of him as a Black boy, and the mindset that has kept him on stage for ten years and counting. It's a conversation about energy, self-belief, and feeling like you always have more to prove.
A quick note: the first 10 minutes or so are audio only because of a camera problem. The video comes in at about 12 minutes.
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References mentioned in this episode: - Urdang, now part of City St George's, University of London (where Jaime and I trained): https://www.citystgeorges.ac.uk/about/schools/communication-creativity/performing-arts - Legally Blonde The Musical, UK and Ireland tour (Jaime's current show): https://www.atgtickets.com/shows/legally-blonde/
CONTENT WARNINGS - RACISM AND RACIST LANGUAGE - HOMOPHOBIA - A PARENT'S REACTION TO COMING OUT - AN UNSETTLED HOME LIFE IN CHILDHOOD - STRONG LANGUAGE
CHAPTERS - 00:00 Intro - 01:29 Knowing someone at 21, and ten years in the West End - 03:15 Growing up in Birmingham as one of seven: what was expected - 04:53 Becoming the people pleaser, and the empath in the middle - 07:30 Knowing he was gay, and using comedy to change the subject - 10:30 Signs, labels and rules: "we're all very free beings" - 12:24 Keeping the love for performing, and why energy gets you hired - 16:58 Telling his dad he was gay the day before moving to London - 20:00 Dancing "like a boy" at Urdang, and embracing every side of himself - 24:12 More to prove: being Black and gay in the cast - 25:27 Minority stress, intention, and whether to correct people - 31:51 The most powerful skill: staying in a good mood - 32:40 Meeting James, self-belief and audition rituals - 39:17 "I know I'm going to be a lead role"
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