Not For Everyone

142. Not for Hard Work + Parasocial Relationships and the Perception of Authenticity

Not For Everyone

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This episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh. Get up to 10 FREE meals at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM __ What’s up, kooks? Ever had a parasocial relationship? Us, too. Jess and Caroline discuss the creators they relate to, why those relationships are special, and why they’re kind of weird, too. Up next: a complaint! J has a weird retail experience, which leads the two to discuss the weird blame game people play, and how built-up resentment equals the end of customer service. Then, they discuss motivation from another angle. It’s kind of a chicken/egg situation: does motivation come first, or does action come first and then motivation? They ruminate on the difference between motivation and momentum, and consider that passion may just be a part of the grind. Is it luck or hard work? Plus, ‘tis the season: C has been having some wedding-related nightmares… P.S. Here’s the Peaking episode that Jess referenced on the fallacy of hard work. This episode was produced by our prince, Abi Newhouse (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠). ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ __

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