Show Notes
What matters more than love?
My answer is capacity.
I think we’ve wildly overestimated love’s ability to carry a relationship. You can love someone deeply and still lie to them, betray them, disappear when things get uncomfortable, refuse to look at yourself, or be unable to create a safe space for them. Love is a feeling. A relationship requires skills.
In this episode, I answer questions about what actually makes relationships work, how relationships change over time, and what it means to leave someone you still love. I also talk about social media, comparison, and how constantly looking at everyone else’s life can make us question our own.
I talk about:
● Why love alone isn’t enough to sustain a relationship
● Capacity, communication, accountability, and repair
● Why long-term relationships require us to grow and become someone we’ve never been before
● What happens when couples resist change and begin to drift apart
● How you can love someone and still know you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with them
● Why staying in a relationship out of fear can sometimes create more pain
● The difference between inspiration and inadequacy on social media
● How comparison can make you overlook the life you’re actually living
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