Show Notes
Choosing yourself isn't about becoming selfish, cutting people off, or needing no one. It's learing to believe your needs, desires, boundaries and feelings are allowed and they matter In this episode, we unpack the subtle ways self abandonment gets mistaken for being loving, accommodating and understanding - and what it looks like to begin choosing yourself without abandoning the people you love. The goal isn't to need no one, it's to stop leaving yourself Journal Questions: What do I actually want? what am I saying yes to that I mean no to? What would I choose if no one was disappointed? Where am I self abandonign to maintain connection? What truth have I been negotiating with?
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