97. Conflict, Co-parenting, and Raising a Connected Son; A Conversation with Amy Armstrong
Raising Boys Building Men ®/: Reconnect with Your Teenage SonShow Notes
Does your son save his worst attitude for you? You're not imagining it, and you're not doing anything wrong. In this episode, Heidi sits down with conflict resolution coach Amy Armstrong to talk about why moms so often become the target when there's tension at home, especially during a separation or divorce. Amy shares her own story of rebuilding her life and her confidence after her first marriage ended, and the mindset shift that changed how she shows up in every hard relationship. You'll walk away with real tools for the moments that matter most. In this episode you'll learn:
Why your son takes his hardest emotions out on you, even when you're the one showing up the most The "pro-me, not anti-you" shift that helps you set boundaries without the guilt A simple script to use when your son is being disrespectful, without starting a power struggle How to protect your relationship with your son when co-parenting gets messy The exact phrase to say when you feel like you've already blown it as a mom
About Amy Armstrong Amy Armstrong is a conflict resolution coach and the founder of the Center for Family Resolution. She helps parents navigate separation, divorce, and co-parenting conflict with tools that actually work. Amy is also a mom of three and a grandma of seven, so she knows this world firsthand, not just from theory. She has trained coaches, taught parenting classes, and written an award-winning book on real time parenting. Courts across several states now refer families to her coaching to help them find a better way through conflict. Learn more about Amy's work at thecenterforfamilyresolution.com
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