Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Setting Relationship Boundaries (w/ Trixie Mattel)

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Show Notes

Drag queen Trixie Mattel (Drag Race S7, All Stars 3) returns to the podcast! After experiencing how exhausting it is to navigate a private breakup while smiling through a press tour, Trixie opens up about why she is now fiercely protective of her new relationship. Nicole explains why Drag Race S7 is her all-time favorite season, and the girls discuss wild dating reality TV shows like 90 Day Fiancé, Love After Lockup, and Love on the Spectrum, plus whether Trixie would ever actually compete on The Traitors. Trixie also discusses her impersonator recent retirement, gives her honest advice to all the gay singles out there, and reveals her obsession with crime scene cleanup.

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