Healthy As A Mother

Miscarriage: What No One Tells You About Loss, Recovery & Trying Again | #186

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Show Notes

Going through a miscarriage is heartbreaking, and then you're asked to make a big medical decision while you're still processing the news. In this episode, Dr. Leah Gordon and Dr. Morgan MacDermott walk through the three options for managing a miscarriage: expectant management (letting your body pass the pregnancy on its own), medication (mifepristone and misoprostol), and a D&C (dilation and curettage). They cover the pros, cons, success rates, and risks of each, so you can make an informed choice that feels right for you.

They also talk about the things most women aren't told ahead of time. That includes how intense passing a pregnancy at home can be, when bleeding is too much and you need the ER, and why HCG can stay in your system and cause a positive pregnancy test weeks later. They explain retained tissue, how ectopic pregnancy is treated differently, and how testing the pregnancy tissue can give you answers after a loss.

Finally, they cover the "mini postpartum" that follows a pregnancy loss. Topics include hormone shifts, when your cycle returns, when it's safe to try again, how to replenish your body, and ways to honor your baby. Whatever you're feeling after a loss is valid. You don't have to go through it alone.

0:00 Trailer & Intro 3:34 Miscarriage Explained 6:10 Why Community Matters After Loss 8:04 It's Not Your Fault 8:36 The Three Miscarriage Options 10:55 The Hard Language of Miscarriage 13:24 Grieving a Failed IVF Transfer 14:49 Option 1: Expectant Management 18:42 What Is a Missed Miscarriage? 22:36 You Don't Have to Decide Right Away 26:06 Feeling Empowered in Your Choice 28:02 Ectopic Pregnancy & Methotrexate 32:50 Option 2: Miscarriage Medication 36:39 Heavy Bleeding & When to Go to the ER 39:28 Medication Success Rates 40:51 Option 3: D&C 41:54 Testing Tissue for Answers 44:55 D&C Pros & Cons 46:31 Antibiotics & Anesthesia 51:27 D&C Risks by the Numbers 53:26 D&C and Future Fertility 57:01 Recovering After Anesthesia 59:12 The Mini Postpartum After Loss 60:37 HCG & False Positive Tests 63:54 When to Try Again 67:09 Nourishing Your Body After Loss 68:08 Your Feelings Are Valid 71:19 Asking for What You Need 72:14 Ways to Honor Your Baby 73:13 Hope After Pregnancy Loss 75:46 Natural Support for Grief 77:25 Closing

Resources From This Episode: Join Dr. Leah's Womanhood Wellness membership - https://drleahgordon.com/join @ihadamiscarriage on Instagram - www.instagram.com/ihadamiscarriage Miscarriage manual - http://www.inciid.org/miscarriage-manual Grief Watch website - http://www.griefwatch.com/symptoms-of-grief Anecdotal natural miscarriage blog - http://www.thehealthyhomeeconomist.com/how-to-have-a-natural-miscarriage-no-dc/

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