You Can’t Regulate Your Kid If You Can’t Regulate Yourself — Here’s Where to Start
The Parenting ReframeShow Notes
Every parent wants to stay calm in the hard moments. The meltdowns, the arguments, the complete refusal to listen. But wanting to stay calm and actually knowing how to get there are two very different things. In this solo episode, Albiona breaks down what it really means to be a regulated parent — and why it’s the foundation everything else is built on.
This one is practical. Albiona walks through her four-step PAR process (Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect), the two reasons most parents can’t access regulation in the moment, and how having a clear plan changes the entire dynamic — for you and your child.
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