Show Notes
Two hours at dinner. You were there for about twenty minutes of it.
You are at dinner with people you love, and you are in a meeting that happens on Thursday. You are running it: what I will say, what they will say back, and when Thursday is done playing, your mind goes backward to a conversation from three weeks ago that you have now replayed forty times.
This episode is about contact with the present moment, one of the six core psychological processes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
What you will learn:
The definition of contact with the present moment. Why replaying a conversation forty times feels like learning and what it pays you every time. Three practices that take about ten seconds each, plus how to tell whether you are using grounding to come back or to leave.
Resources mentioned:
Playing-It-Safe Questionnaire (free) → https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/ Values-Based Review: Life Audit (free) → https://proud-snow-5694.ck.page/d2a5e77ba3 ACT Coaching for anxiety-based struggles → https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/act-coaching/ Therapy at East Bay Behavior Therapy Center → https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/
About Dr. Z
Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (Dr. Z) is a licensed psychologist, author of eight books, and TEDx speaker who has spent over 18 years helping overthinkers and overachievers stop letting anxiety make their decisions. She is the founder of East Bay Behavior Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and the host of the Playing It Safe podcast. Her TEDx talk "Stop Playing It Safe and Start Living" has over 267,000 views.
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STOP LETTING ANXIETY MAKE YOUR DECISIONS
WHO AM I?
My name is Patricia E. Zurita Ona, but my clients call me Dr. Z.
I’m a psychologist, a passionate behaviorist, and a person that loves to make behavioral science accessible for day-to-day life. I specialize in Acceptance and Commitment skills (ACT), a form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT).
I have significant experience – over 18 years – working with individuals dealing with anxiety-based struggles such as perfectionism, procrastination, chronic indecision, phobias, OCD, panic, worry, and any other anxiety-related difficulties.
I've published books on ACT, given a TEDx talk with 260K+ views, founded East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, and spent two decades proving one thing: Your anxiety doesn't need fixing. It needs listening to. Because most of the time, anxiety is just trying to keep you safe, the problem is when "safe" becomes "stuck." And once you know the difference, everything changes.
My website is packed with resources, courses and content that will help you break free from those "playing-it-safe" moves and make the most out of your life!
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