Show Notes
There's an email that's been sitting in your drafts for eleven days, and the only thing stopping it is one sentence in your head that you've never checked. This episode is about defusion, one of the six core processes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and about what happens when a thought and the world get glued together so tightly you can't tell them apart.
Dr. Z explains defusion in plain language, why the thoughts that run your life sound like good judgment instead of fear, and how most of them are orders you've been following for years without calling them orders. Then, you get four skills to put a little daylight between the sentence and what your hands do next.
What you will learn: Defusion, plainly Why your mind says it's cold outside and you're going to humiliate yourself in exactly the same voice. Why arguing with the thought or swapping it for a positive one keeps you in the same fight. Four ways to practice delusion.
Resources mentioned: Audio guide You're not your thoughts (free) → https://proud-snow-5694.kit.com/89ff3918d3 Playing-It-Safe Questionnaire (free) → https://www.thisisdoctorz.com/playing-it-safe-questionnaire/ ACT Coaching for anxiety-based struggles → https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/act-coaching/ Therapy at East Bay Behavior Therapy Center → https://eastbaybehaviortherapycenter.com/
About Dr. Z
Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona (Dr. Z) is a licensed psychologist, author of eight books, and TEDx speaker who has spent over 18 years helping overthinkers and overachievers stop letting anxiety make their decisions. She is the founder of East Bay Behavior Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and the host of the Playing It Safe podcast. Her TEDx talk "Stop Playing It Safe and Start Living" has over 267,000 views.
If this episode helped you recognize one playing-it-safe move in your own life, a review on Apple Podcasts means everything to me. I read every single one. _______
STOP LETTING ANXIETY MAKE YOUR DECISIONS
WHO AM I?
My name is Patricia E. Zurita Ona, but my clients call me Dr. Z.
I’m a psychologist, a passionate behaviorist, and a person that loves to make behavioral science accessible for day-to-day life. I specialize in Acceptance and Commitment skills (ACT), a form of Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT).
I have significant experience – over 18 years – working with individuals dealing with anxiety-based struggles such as perfectionism, procrastination, chronic indecision, phobias, OCD, panic, worry, and any other anxiety-related difficulties.
I've published books on ACT, given a TEDx talk with 260K+ views, founded East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, and spent two decades proving one thing: Your anxiety doesn't need fixing. It needs listening to. Because most of the time, anxiety is just trying to keep you safe, the problem is when "safe" becomes "stuck." And once you know the difference, everything changes.
My website is packed with resources, courses and content that will help you break free from those "playing-it-safe" moves and make the most out of your life!
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