#698: Why Trying Harder Is Keeping You Stuck

Do you get discouraged when progress is slower than expected, when someone criticizes you, or when things don't go according to plan? You're not alone. But being easily discouraged doesn't have to be your default response. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, Trish Blackwell breaks down why high achievers are especially vulnerable to discouragement, how to stop turning temporary setbacks into permanent conclusions, and how to build the mental toughness to keep going when results aren't showing up yet. You'll learn how to recover faster, protect your confidence from circumstances, and stop letting one difficult moment determine what you believe about your future.

What if your circumstances aren't the biggest thing affecting how you feel—your interpretation of them is? In this episode, we're talking about the difference between viewing your life through a critical filter versus a curious filter, and how to know when your brain is lying to you. You'll learn why your brain's first interpretation isn't necessarily the truth, how criticism disguises itself as "helpful" thinking, the Three-Story Rule, and simple questions that can pull you out of overthinking, self-judgment and unnecessary emotional spirals. Mental toughness isn't about having better circumstances. It's about getting better at questioning the story you're telling yourself about those circumstances. You'll leave this episode with one powerful question: What else could be true? → [LISTENER SPECIAL OFFER] Coach with Trish for 30-Days for Just $27! www.trishblackwell.com/listener Reframe Kit for Kids: www.trishblackwell.com/kids Reframing Challenge: www.trishblackwell.com/reframe 🤖 REFRAME AI TOOL [Must-Have Tool to Train Your Brain!] www.trishblackwell.com/reframeai 🏆 90-DAY IDENTITY SHIFT: www.trishblackwell.com/90day 🔥 GET 24 MINI COURSES for $24!!! [START HERE IF YOU'RE NEW]: www.trishblackwell.com/24for24

→ [LISTENER SPECIAL OFFER] Coach with Trish for 30-Days for Just $27! www.trishblackwell.com/listener Reframe Kit for Kids: www.trishblackwell.com/kids Reframing Challenge: www.trishblackwell.com/reframe 🤖 REFRAME AI TOOL [Must-Have Tool to Train Your Brain!] www.trishblackwell.com/reframeai 🏆 90-DAY IDENTITY SHIFT: www.trishblackwell.com/90day 🔥 GET 24 MINI COURSES for $24!!! [START HERE IF YOU'RE NEW]: www.trishblackwell.com/24for24

What do you do when you wake up and just… don't feel like yourself? Maybe it's hormones. PMDD. Anxiety. Stress. Exhaustion. Or one of those days when your brain suddenly decides that all the progress you've made doesn't count and everything in your life is terrible. You don't need to perform at 100% every day to be consistent. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about how to keep moving toward your goals when your mental and emotional capacity changes. You'll learn how to stop making permanent conclusions from temporary feelings, create a low-capacity version of your routine, separate your capacity from your character, and recognize that having a hard day doesn't mean you're back at square one. I'll also walk you through my 5-step Mental Mess Protocol so you know exactly what to do when your brain feels loud, your motivation disappears, and you'd really rather just stay in bed and cry. Because growth isn't never feeling the old way again. Growth is responding differently when the old feeling returns. → [LISTENER SPECIAL OFFER] Coach with Trish for 30-Days for Just $27! www.trishblackwell.com/listener Reframe Kit for Kids: www.trishblackwell.com/kids Reframing Challenge: www.trishblackwell.com/reframe 🤖 REFRAME AI TOOL [Must-Have Tool to Train Your Brain!] www.trishblackwell.com/reframeai 🏆 90-DAY IDENTITY SHIFT: www.trishblackwell.com/90day 🔥 GET 24 MINI COURSES for $24!!! [START HERE IF YOU'RE NEW]: www.trishblackwell.com/24for24

What if someone being disappointed in you… isn't actually a problem? If you're a people-pleaser, high achiever, perfectionist, or someone who prides yourself on being dependable, disappointment can feel unbearable. So you over-explain. You say yes when you mean no. You lower your standards. You change your plans. You manage everyone else's emotions. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, you'll learn how to stop confusing someone else's disappointment with your wrongdoing, how to tolerate the discomfort of letting people down, and how to choose self-respect without becoming selfish or uncaring. You'll learn: Why disappointment feels so threatening The difference between disappointing someone and hurting someone How people-pleasing quietly erodes self-trust What to say when someone doesn't like your decision How to stop over-explaining your boundaries Why disappointing others may be necessary to stop disappointing yourself You are allowed to be kind without making everyone happy. → [LISTENER SPECIAL OFFER] Coach with Trish for 30-Days for Just $27! www.trishblackwell.com/listener Reframe Kit for Kids: www.trishblackwell.com/kids Reframing Challenge: www.trishblackwell.com/reframe 🤖 REFRAME AI TOOL [Must-Have Tool to Train Your Brain!] www.trishblackwell.com/reframeai 🏆 90-DAY IDENTITY SHIFT: www.trishblackwell.com/90day 🔥 GET 24 MINI COURSES for $24!!! [START HERE IF YOU'RE NEW]: www.trishblackwell.com/24for24