Not For Everyone

133. Hot Not Bothered Summer: Red Flags Worth Staying For (Politics? Dating History? Kinks?)

Not For Everyone

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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://www.betterhelp.com/NOTFOREVERYONE and get on your way to being your best self. __ In this episode, Jess and Caroline unpack the “red flags” that might not be red flags at all — or at least, not dealbreakers. What if your date has never been in a serious relationship? What if they voted differently than you in 2016? What if there are some glaring differences? The girls get into the nuance of context, the difference between patterns and one-offs, and how to tell if you’re seeing a warning sign or just someone’s humanity showing. Spoiler: not every flag requires a full evacuation. Some just require a little more digging. Whether you’re a walking green flag or proudly toxic with a spreadsheet, this one’s for anyone who’s tired of pretending we’re all dating in a vacuum. Let’s talk about when it’s okay — maybe even wise — to stay. This episode was produced by Caroline Winkler and Abi Newhouse. __ Check out Jess' solo podcast PEAKING!!! - everywhere you get podcasts :) __

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