Show Notes
Stop losing yourself to love.
What if codependency isn't just about your relationships with other people, but your relationship with yourself?
In this episode, John and Vanessa explore why recovering from codependency is really about building a stronger sense of identity. They explain how people pleasing, lacking boundaries, and fearing rejection can keep us disconnected from who we really are, and why choosing authenticity over self-abandonment is essential for healthier relationships.
In this episode:
• Why codependency recovery is really identity work
• How people pleasing can become a way to avoid yourself
• The connection between resentment, boundaries, and self-abandonment
• Why some relationships change or end when you begin healing
• The difference between healthy love and the version of love many of us were taught
• How corrective experiences help you build a stronger relationship with yourself
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🔗 Resources & Links
👉 Apply to Inner Compass Academy: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy
👉 Follow Vanessa on Instagram @vanessasbennett
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🎙️ More about John:
📘 My latest book, Love Hard On Purpose. Toss the blueprints. Build something honest. HERE
John’s book publishing company: Soulprint https://www.soulprintmedia.co
📘 Read John’s book in progress Sh*t Your Therapist Would Never Tell You on John’s SubStack HERE
If you’re ready for deeper work, the Secure Self course is available HERE
Order John’s book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Follow John on Instagram HERE
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