Show Notes
"Why is it always ME?"
That's the question I hear again and again from women who are trying to change the dynamic in their marriage, and in this episode, I'm answering some of the hardest questions you sent me after the Speak Husband Challenge.
What if he gets defensive about everything? What if you're tired of always being the one who tries? Do you really have to respect him when you're struggling to find anything to respect? And what happens when your personalities, values, or ways of seeing the world feel completely different?
I'm answering these honestly, including the tough questions that challenge everything I teach.
Because NO, you don't have to carry your marriage alone. But you CAN be the one who goes first.
You can change the dynamic without changing your husband. Learn how inside Married-U https://married-u.com/university
CHAPTERS: 00:00 – Why Is It Always On Me? 03:48 – Is Asking Him to Clean Actually Emasculating? 08:19 – Is Every Request Really an Attack? 11:42 – What If He's Not a Naturally Secure Man? 14:58 – Am I Allowed to Vent, or Am I Just Unloading? 23:15 – Should Respect Be Earned or Given? 28:21 – Why Am I the One Managing His Feelings? 34:54 – Can You Undo 15 Years of Defensiveness? 39:28 – What If Most of the Marriage Feels Like a Struggle? 47:16 – Going Alone vs. Going First
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