Show Notes
Have you ever made a mistake while riding and then spent hours, days, or even months thinking about it?
Maybe other people saw it happen. Maybe you immediately started wondering what they thought. Or perhaps one mistake turned into a much bigger story in your head: “I can’t see a distance.” “I’m not good enough to ride at this level.” “Everyone thinks I’m terrible.” “Maybe I’m not ready for this.”
In this episode, we explore why a mistake can feel so much bigger than the few seconds it actually took to happen, and how the meaning we attach to that mistake can keep affecting our riding long after the moment has passed.
I and Lorna discuss:
Why we often care so much about other people seeing our mistakes
How our own judgement of a mistake can amplify our worries about other people's opinions
The difference between a mistake and the story you create around it
How a growth mindset can help you see mistakes as information rather than proof that you're not good enough
Why stepping up a level often brings old fears and patterns back to the surface
How your brain can turn one uncomfortable experience into a rule designed to keep you safe
Why you don't need to eliminate nerves, fear or self-doubt before you can ride effectively
How you can be nervous and still ride your canter
Why trying to stop thinking about something can actually make the thought stronger
How redirecting your attention can help you get back to what matters during a round
The difference between avoidance and acceptance
Why getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is part of personal growth
How to start unravelling the deeper beliefs and identity stories sitting underneath a mistake
Resources Mentioned:
Coaching & support: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching
Weekly Hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
Email: [email protected]
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