416: When Consequences “Don’t Work” (And What To Do Instead) (Parenting Series)
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Rachel Kapp, M.Ed., BCET, and Stephanie Pitts, M.Ed., BCET explore why traditional consequences often fail for kids with learning differences and/or executive functioning skills challenges—and what actually helps instead. They unpack the critical idea that consequences only work when a child already has the underlying skills, and explain how repeated punishment can increase stress, shutdown, and avoidance rather than learning. They reframe “misbehavior” as a skills gap and offer practical alternatives rooted in curiosity, explicit skill-building, and collaborative problem-solving.
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