ep.8: So WHY have I been AVOIDING doing this??
The ADHD Connection with Nicky Shipp & Carrie OvertonShow Notes
Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we talk about Procrastination… • chronic vs occasional procrastination • why DO we 'procrastinate'? • can we un-learn to procrastinate? • the effect of time/proximity • 'delaying to avoid' • the tipping point • Nicky finishing a song – just the 9 years in the writing! (If you want to watch the song, the YouTube link is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xwUya3ax7y0 )
…and 'combative strategies' - what works for us, including: • using a deadline to maximise the outcome • Management By Doing Nothing and intuition • Eating the Frog vs dumplings! • planning vs 'winging it' • ‘Reframing’ – Carrie seeing the strength in something she’d considered a weakness
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