726: Win or Learn: What French Special Forces Taught Jeff Malek About Fear
I Love Mortgage BrokeringShow Notes
Most people spend a lot of time trying to avoid discomfort.Jeff Malek’s whole life has been built around walking straight into it.Jeff went through French Special Forces selection, and in this conversation, we talk about what that taught him about fear, pressure, and what people are actually capable of when they stop trying to stay comfortable.What I like about Jeff is that this is not theory for him. He has lived it. And now he takes what he learned in that world and applies it to entrepreneurs, athletes, and everyday people who want to get stronger mentally and physically.This is a conversation about resilience, confidence, and why doing hard things on purpose changes the way you show up everywhere else in life.In this episode, we cover:
Why Discomfort Builds Confidence - Jeff explains why the goal is not to avoid hard things, but to use them to prove to yourself what you can handle. How to Stay Calm Under Pressure - We talk about what happens when people start to lose composure and why breathing is one of the fastest ways to reset. Why You Need to Think Step by Step - When the challenge feels too big, the answer is to stop looking at the whole thing and focus on the next obstacle in front of you. Why Asking for Help Makes You Stronger - Jeff shares why accepting help is not weakness. It is often what allows you to go further. Win or Learn - One of the biggest lessons from Jeff’s world is that if you are willing to face the challenge, you either win or you learn
You do not build confidence by waiting to feel ready. You build it by doing hard things, staying in it, and realizing you can handle more than you thought. To connect with Jeff, check out the links below:InstagramFacebookYouTube https://www.mlkabilities.com/https://okanaganwarriors.ca/MLK Abilities Podcast on other podcast platforms Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/scottpeckford/I Love Mortgage Brokering: www.ilovemortgagebrokering.comFind out more about BRX Mortgage: www.whybrx.com Subscribe to my email list, Peckford's PlaybookJoin the Mortgage Mindset Daily (On break this July)Gamify your prospecting with the 10@10 App I Love Mortgage Brokering is in partnership with Ownwell.To see how top brokers are keeping clients engaged and generating leads from their database, visit ownwell.ca/scott.
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