The art of influence: The single most important skill that AI can’t replace | Jessica Fain (Webflow, ex-Slack)
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Jessica Fain is a product leader at Webflow and former Chief of Staff to the CPO at Slack, where she worked alongside April Underwood and many past podcast guests including Stewart Butterfield, Annie Pearl, Tamar Yehoshua, and Noah Weiss. She’s spent her career learning how executives actually make decisions—and why most people completely misunderstand the process.
We discuss: 1. Why great ideas often don’t get buy-in 2. Why executive calendars are “like strobe lights” and why the first 30 seconds of a meeting matter so much 3. Why executives are usually optimizing for a global maximum while you are often optimizing locally 4. The best question Jessica uses when a leader says something that seems wrong: “That’s so interesting. What led you to believe that?” 5. Why you should go in to learn, not to convince 6. Why showing only one option is a mistake 7. Why AI will make influence more important, not less — Brought to you by: Omni—AI analytics your customers can trust Lovable—Build apps by simply chatting with AI Vanta—Automate compliance, manage risk, and accelerate trust with AI — Episode transcript: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-art-of-influence-jessica-fain — Archive of all Lenny's Podcast transcripts: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fo/yxi4s2w998p1gvtpu4193/AMdNPR8AOw0lMklwtnC0TrQ?rlkey=j06x0nipoti519e0xgm23zsn9&st=ahz0fj11&dl=0 — Where to find Jessica Fain: • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-fain-79b8989 — Where to find Lenny: • Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com • X: https://twitter.com/lennysan • LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/ — In this episode, we cover: (00:00) Introduction to Jessica Fain (03:53) Why influence is the highest-leverage skill in product (04:47) Why great ideas fail without executive buy-in (06:00) How executives actually think (09:05) The fundamentals: context-setting, communication, and empathy (10:22) Stop pitching for approval—start co-creating with execs (12:59) Influence vs. politics (and why people get it wrong) (15:44) How to disagree with execs without losing trust (17:20) Going in to learn, not to convince (19:08) How to present ideas (26:05) The Minto-style approach and tailoring your communication to each exec (28:22) Why Jessica doesn’t like the question “What’s top of mind for you?” (30:24) Understanding incentives to unlock buy-in (32:10) Aligning product work with company strategy (35:10) Quick summary (37:31) Disarming the executive (40:49) Speed matters: why fast follow-up builds momentum (43:32) How to run high-impact meetings (the 60-second rule) (47:00) Why influencing execs is part of your job (49:15) Asking for more resources and thinking in 10x bets (52:23) What to do when your idea gets rejected (54:18) Clarifying information (56:50) How to build trust and make ideas stick (58:30) Shrinking big ideas into experiments (01:02:27) Common mistakes people make when influencing leaders (01:06:00) How to grow into your next role (01:09:32) How AI is changing influence and product work (01:17:55) Using AI to simulate exec feedback and improve pitches (01:21:15) Protecting our brains from overwhelm (01:22:44) Lightning round and final thoughts — Referenced: • Box: https://www.box.com • Slack: https://slack.com • Brightwheel: https://mybrightwheel.com • Webflow: https://webflow.com • April Underwood on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aprilunderwood • Lessons in product leadership and AI strategy from Glean, Google, Amazon, and Slack | Tamar Yehoshua (Product at Glean, ex-Google and Slack): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/you-dont-need-to-be-a-well-run-company-to-win-tamar-yehoshua • Atlassian: https://www.atlassian.com • Behind the scenes of Calendly’s rapid growth | Annie Pearl (CPO): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/behind-the-scenes-of-calendlys-rapid • Calendly: https://calendly.com • Glassdoor: https://www.glassdoor.co.in/index.htm • The 10 traits of great PMs, how AI will impact your product, and Slack’s product developmen
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