#52 The Friendship Matrix: A LifeHack for Building Healthy Friendships in College
College Is Fine, Everything's FineShow Notes
College makes it very easy to find friends. You’ve got loads of time, your pick of social events, party ready dorm rooms, and hard classes to bond over. But for many students, finding friends isn’t the problem. The challenge is finding quality friendships. Introducing the “Friendship Matrix,” a lifehack to help you build healthy and fun friendships in a new, fun way. Make sure to listen to this episode if you want to: Find out whether you believe in the friendship myth about what a “good friend” means Discover how different friend “vibes” meet different needs, from reliable “anchors” to fun, outgoing “adventurers.” Explore the importance of give-and-take in friendships and how to spot imbalances in your social circle. Learn why it’s valuable to step outside of your comfort zone and explore friendships with different types of people. Reflect on your role in your friendships—are you giving or taking more, and how can you bring more balance? And ok, should we have created a podcast episode that is very dependent on a visual? Maybe not. Did we figure that out mid-recording? We did! If you want a visual while you watch, we’ve shared it in our socials, and you can go straight to it here: https://tr.ee/kD3Sabhgon Or let’s be real, just watch our clips on TikTok :) Happy listening!
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