Girls Gotta Eat

Are Your Boundaries Killing Your Love Life (and Social Life)?

Girls Gotta Eat

Show Notes

Have we optimized to the point of loneliness? We’re breaking down the question “Are my boundaries killing my love life?” and discuss whether a routine (and unwillingness to stray from it) could be impacting your ability to have fun, have friends, and date. We reminisce on millennial party culture and discuss how times and priorities have changed, offer solutions for an “over boundaried” life, and provide baby steps to getting out there more. We also discuss how a lot of today’s dating advice is hurting more than it’s helping. Before we get into the topic, Rayna gives a relationship status update, Ashley shows off her foster dog, we recap our summers, and unpack the Gen Z stare. Enjoy!

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