Show Notes
In this episode, Marielle and Ed answer a listener's question about fears of abandonment when conflict arises in relationships. These fears go straight to the heart of old wounds for many people. Often, worry that conflict will destroy a relationship is rooted in our earliest relationships with our caregivers. If that early care was inconsistent, absent, or punishing in some way, it will be hard to feel secure when conflict inevitably arises in adult relationships. With skill use and a lot of compassion, you can learn to walk yourself through this common fear. For full show notes, visit our website: https://bayareadbtcc.com/podcast/ DBT Skills Discussed Wise Mind Distress Tolerance Skills STOP Self-Soothing Radical Acceptance Check the Facts Opposite Action DEAR MAN GIVE Ask us a Question We'd love to hear from you! Where are you getting stuck with your skills application? Ask us a question for the chance to have it answered on the podcast. Submit your question here. Please note that questions, and this podcast in general, are not a substitute for individual mental health treatment.
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