Why She Stayed

Ep. 82: Facing Pain Head-On: The Only Way Is Through

Why She Stayed

Show Notes

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Kia Lee, author and survivor, as she shares her journey through domestic abuse and cancer—and what it means to keep creating hope while still living in the unknown.

Kia opens up about the loneliness of clarity: that isolating moment when you see the truth of your situation before anyone else does. We talk about how life doesn’t pause for your pain- how the world keeps moving even when your own world feels like it has come to a complete stop.

Together, we explore the power of discernment—learning to trust your inner knowing when circumstances, people, or even professionals cause you to doubt yourself.

Kia speaks candidly about the necessity of facing pain head-on rather than avoiding it, and how doing so became a turning point in her healing.

In this episode, we discuss: Living with clarity that others may not understand The grief of watching the world move on while you’re standing still Developing discernment and trusting your inner voice Why facing pain directly is essential to healing Domestic abuse, survival, and reclaiming your sense of self Medical gaslighting and the importance of advocating for yourself Creating hope while still in the unknown

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