ADHD Untangled

S5 E6 - Untangling ADHD & Life with Alexis Lee: Sex, Shame and Community

ADHD Untangled

Show Notes

Some of us don’t stumble across ready-made communities. Some of us have to build them - and today’s guest knows a thing or two about that. Today I am joined by the one and only Alexis Lee – Founder of Style Me Sunday, author of 'Feeling Myself', community leader (Black Enough, Healing Myself), psychotherapist in training and apparently, the only person who could get me talking about sex without wanting to crawl under the table. We dive into it all — the stuff nobody taught us growing up. From convent school guilt, to figuring out what love really means later in life, to how shutting down the sex chat only fuels more shame. We also get into how ADHD messes with body image, self-esteem, intimacy... and basically, how it all ties back to connection and community. From setting up a spontaneous fishing community (yep, you read that right) to navigating the chaos of daily life, Alexis shares her honest take on what it actually means to live authentically. 🧡 ADHD, sex, shame and why it’s so tangled up in how we see ourselves 🧡 Building your own community when none of the ones out there feel right 🧡 Dissociation, energy crashes and the bits of ADHD nobody claps for 🧡 Breaking free from rigid rules and finding your own rhythm 🧡 How the sea - and a good rant - can do wonders for your soul This episode is for anyone who’s tired of trying to fit a mould that was never made for them, who’s craving real connection and who’s ready to own their messy, beautiful story. 🧡 🎧 Listen now! Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stylemesunday Join Alexis FREE fishing group: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/we-are-black-fish-hook-up-tickets-1311522492079?aff=ebdsoporgprofile Let’s get untangled and show the world what we’re made of 🧡🖤

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Have you ever felt the need to change who you are in order to fit in? me too! And I’ve spent so many years hectically running around this world trying to be everything and everyone else but my true myself Party girl, house wife, rebel, addict, yogi…. To name a few Hoping that eventually, something would work and something would fix me and make me normal… None of it ever did.

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