Should Kids Have an Allowance?! A Simple Guide to Raising Money Smart Kids | 35
The Mom Psychologist ShowShow Notes
I think one of the most powerful gifts we can give our kids is the gift of knowing how to be smart with our money.
After all, money touches every area of our lives (whether we talk about it or not) and it also ties into our overall sense of safety & security.
Yet, did you know... The majority of families tend to shy away from having conversations about it (even though kids begin to form their core beliefs & habits about money by age 7!).
And I know, there's a lot of buzz around whether or not kids should to get an allowance.
In this week's episode, I share: -Whether or not I think giving kids an allowance is a good idea -The one huge (& common) mistake parents make when it comes to teaching about money -The huge paradigm shift that must happen in your family when you start teaching about money -Helpful resources and tools to teach your kids about money -And so much more!
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