Show Notes
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In this solo episode of Not Alone, Valeria opens up about the emotional work she’s doing behind the scenes as she enters her next stage of growth. From revisiting therapy and learning how to embrace joy after being raised in a “survival household,” to reflecting on vulnerability, creativity, and her openness to new things living in Miami. Valeria shares an honest glimpse into the challenges and breakthroughs shaping her right now. She questions how to be both an emotional and high-functioning person and wonders if it’s possible. She answers listener questions with her signature candor, talks about the pressure of always being “on” online, and even revisits stories from her past, including her “trophy wife” days and a behind-the-scenes Victoria’s Secret moment that made her step away from modeling. It’s a thoughtful, intimate conversation on emotional growth, choosing joy and stepping into a new chapter with more presence and purpose.
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Books I Mentioned:
The Many Lives of Mama Love - https://www.amazon.com/Many-Lives-Mama-Love-Stealing/dp/1982197668
God Wears Lipstick - https://www.amazon.com/God-Wears-Lipstick-Kabbalah-Women/dp/1571895817
The Art of Thinking Clearly - https://www.amazon.com/Art-Thinking-Clearly-Rolf-Dobelli/dp/0062219693
What we talked about:
0:24 - Start
1:10 - Working overtime on my emotional state
3:00 - Needing help for the next evolution of Valeria
4:05 - Revisiting therapy
6:35 - “I cried of course”
7:30 - Being at the right place at the right time
8:36 - Needing more joy in life
11:14 - Furtuna Skin Ad
12;33 - “I don't trust emotions”
14:49 - Being raised in a survival household
16:00 - “I’m ready to embrace joy”
17:15 - Answering listener questions
17:19 - Being vulnerable online
19:20 - Wanting to work on being less cautious online
20:31 - What I’m enjoying most about Miami
23:03 - Men being attracted to caretaker types
24:15 - Reminiscing on trophy wife days
25:48 - Pressure to always be “on” creatively
27:39 - Have any past failures kept you from trying something new?
28:48 - Victoria’s Secret story
31:30 - Ben’s camp calling Gary first
33:31 - Valeria’s Book Recs
33:42 - The Many Lives of Mama Love
35:47 - God Wears Lipstick
36:18 - The Art of Thinking Clearly
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