Show Notes
You built the life you were supposed to want. The career, the wins, the whole thing. And lately you've been quietly wondering why you don't want it anymore, and then feeling insane for wondering, because nothing is technically wrong.
You're not insane. It's happening to almost every woman I know.
Krista posted a reel about it that went viral, and the second I saw it I thought, there it is. That's the thing. Every woman she knows is pivoting. Walking away from careers they spent a decade building, from lives that looked good from the outside, toward something they can't fully explain yet.
And I couldn't scroll past it, because it's happening everywhere I turn. My friends. The group chats. Me. So I brought her in, because we had to talk about it.
Here's what we got into.
So much of what we've been calling ambition our whole lives was never ambition. It was a trauma response in a nice outfit. We performed. We over-functioned. We achieved, and got rewarded for it, and quietly ran ourselves into the ground doing it.
Nobody tells you the thing that built your whole life can be the same thing making you disappear.
We got into the difference between being called to leave something and just running from it, because they feel identical and they are not the same thing.
The pieces of ourselves we left behind chasing all of it, and how a lot of us are quietly going back to get her. And then female friendship, which is where I cried, because that's the part nobody prepares you for either.
This one is for the woman quietly outgrowing her life who hasn't told a soul. The one running a life that fit her five years ago and doesn't anymore. And the one starting to suspect that the ambition that got her here isn't the thing that's going to take her where she actually wants to go.
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WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT
2:00 The pivot every woman is quietly making
3:08 The year and a half we've been circling this
4:30 Beyond achievement, beyond what everyone told me to be
5:42 When ambition is really a trauma response
7:03 Playing the roles: mom, wife, the woman who has it together
8:18 How our relationships are changing too
9:19 The marriage that ended at thirty-four
11:52 Why women are done performing
13:47 You don't have to fix everything
16:24 What the twenty-year-olds are eating up
18:30 I want visibility: the wanting we perform at work
20:58 I love everybody, I'm having the best time (are you?)
22:22 Giving your emotions to your little girl
25:00 Sometimes it's a gift, sometimes it's a lot
28:20 What her flow actually looks like
30:40 The leadership coach, and doing the work
33:00 Called to leave, or running away? They feel identical
33:59 What do I actually want?
35:15 Why the saying-no conversation triggers her
36:07 Can I? Should I? Do I even want to?
38:40 Loneliness, and what it's really telling you
40:00 How to truthfully answer what you want
43:50 You're becoming a whole new woman
45:53 Watching it happen to the women around her
48:48 The divorce phase, and coming out the other side
51:20 How she showed up in the hardest times
54:00 The premonition, and trusting what she knew
57:36 Holding good and grateful and still wanting more
1:00:00 Female friendship, and learning how to receive love
1:02:30 When we
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