Ben Goresky - aka Evolving Man - On Masculinity, Relationships, and Achieving Your Dreams
The Self You SeekShow Notes
In this episode of 'The Self You Seek,' host Dr Brendan engages in a profound conversation with Ben Goresky, a men's leadership coach, addiction counselor, and co-director of ARKA Brotherhood. They explore the unique benefits of men's groups, the powerful impact of men sharing their struggles, and the transformative experiences that arise from feeling truly seen by other men. Ben discusses handling suicidal ideation within men's groups, the importance of leaning into shared pain, and the necessity of communal support in saving lives.
They delve into the roles of masculinity and femininity, and how men's groups can push individuals towards achieving their dreams and living authentically. The dialogue highlights the relevance of men's circles for women, the importance of having various support systems, and personal anecdotes on finding the 'self you seek.' Topics also include addiction, particularly in relation to phone use, and strategies for maintaining a healthy balance. Ben concludes by sharing his journey in personal growth and leaving listeners with the importance of finding a trusted environment to nurture and grow into one's true self.
00:00 Introduction to Men's Groups and Their Impact
01:20 Meet Ben Goresky: Men's Leadership Coach
02:24 Personal Journeys and Relationship Programs
03:27 The Power of Men's Groups and Brotherhood
07:32 Healing Through Shared Struggles
15:54 Masculine and Feminine Dynamics
21:04 Addressing Suicidal Ideation in Men's Groups
33:13 Achieving Dreams Through Brotherhood
38:52 The Power of Accountability in Men's Groups
39:26 The Impact of Peer Support on Personal Growth
39:56 The Role of Men's Groups in Building Confidence
41:13 The Importance of Vulnerability and Honesty
42:29 Long-Term Commitment and Breakthroughs in Men's Groups
45:17 Why Women Should Care About Men's Groups
46:14 The Benefits of Women's Circles
01:00:56 The Challenge of Phone Addiction
01:08:59 Personal Growth and Finding the Self You Seek
Connect With Us
Guest Links:
Instagram: instagram.com/evolvingman
Website: evolvingman.com
Relationship course: evolvingman.com/conscious-relationship-council
Addiction circle: evolvingman.com/freedom-from-addiction
Brotherhood: arkabrotherhood.com
Host Links:
Instagram: instagram.com/itsdrbrendan
YouTube: youtube.com/@TheSelfYouSeek
Email: [email protected]
Additional Invitation: Ben’s relationship course starts in March. Register now to join!
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