Is Your Marriage Over or Does It Just Need Work? with Relationship Coach Lisa Miller
Stronger Bolder WiserShow Notes
Staying isn't always fine. And leaving isn't always the answer. But staying stuck in the middle? That's what this episode is here to help with.
Lisa Miller is a relationship and divorce coach, and in this episode we talk about what the silent divorce actually looks like, how alcohol can mask just how unhappy you really are, and what it finally takes to get honest with yourself about what you want.
What We Cover: - The warning signs your marriage is struggling beneath the surface - Why resentment is one of the biggest killers of a long-term relationship - How your nervous system keeps you stuck and how to regulate it - The connection between alcohol, resentment, and avoiding the truth - What to do when you want to save your marriage but your partner won't do the work - Why women in their 40s are initiating divorce more than ever before - How to start finding your own happiness no matter what you decide
Timestamps: The Truth About Divorce: Statistics, Signs, and Why Leaving Is Never Simple (00:00) Are You Just Staying Together for the Kids? The Silent Divorce Signs Women Miss` (08:16) What Removing Alcohol Reveals About Your Marriage (15:50) Why Women Leave First: Divorce Patterns, Grey Area, and Nervous System Explained (33:10) How to Regulate Your Nervous System to Make Clearer Decisions (40:41) What to Do When You Know You Are Unhappy But Do Not Know What to Do Next (51:49) Beyond the Financial Fear: How to Start Finding Your Own Happiness (56:14)
Lisa Miller is a certified relationship and divorce coach who has helped over 1,000 women decide whether to stay or leave their marriage and navigate what comes next. She specialises in nervous system regulation, emotional clarity, and helping women break free from the fear and guilt that keeps them stuck. Using her Proven Clarity Framework, Lisa guides women to make the biggest decision of their lives from a place of calm rather than chaos. Lisa is a relationship coach - if you'd like to connect with her or learn more about her work, check out her socials below. - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Lisa-MillerCoach-100083236703094/ - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisamiller.coach/
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Sarah Rusbatch is an accredited Health and Wellbeing Coach and one of Australia's leading experts on grey area drinking. Her podcast, Stronger, Bolder, Wiser, is the go-to space for women who are questioning their relationship with alcohol, navigating life alcohol-free, or simply curious about what life could look like on the other side of the bottle.
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