Show Notes
One of the questions I dreaded getting asked when I worked as a breast surgeon was ‘How do I tell my children?’ I don’t have children of my own, and I had no idea what to say. My breast care nurses would step in and I would breathe a sigh of relief. Judging from all your questions this week, telling your children you have cancer can be fraught with anxiety, worry, guilt and stress. And that’s the last thing you need when you’re going through breast cancer treatment.
This week’s guest is here to help. Caroline Leek is the founder and director of the FruitFly collective. Caroline’s mission at FruitFly is to help families talk about cancer, death and grief and to support children of any age with the tools they need to help them cope and know they’re not alone, and I’m thrilled she was able to join me - IN PERSON - for this special episode which you can also watch on my Youtube channel.
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Here are some of the websites Caroline mentioned: www.parentingwithcancer.org www.fruitflycollective.com www.pipskit.com Ruth strauss foundation - for people facing end of life - https://ruthstraussfoundation.com/ Mummys star - https://www.mummysstar.org/ http://www.riprap.org.uk/ You can also book tickets to the Parenting with Cancer conference in May here - (delegates are bothe healthcare professionals and parents) https://buytickets.at/fruitflycollective/1059526
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