The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw

You're a High-Level Woman with a Dysregulated Nervous System

The Resurrection Room with Kelli Shaw

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You’re a High-Level Woman with a Dysregulated Nervous System

You have built something real. You have done the work. So why does your body keep saying no when your mind says go?In this episode, Kelli Shaw gets honest about the thing most high-achieving women are missing: your nervous system. We cover what dysregulation actually is, what it does to your health and your sense of self over time, and why you cannot push your way into your calling from a place of chronic survival.Plus — two practical tools and a daily practice you can start today.If you have ever wondered why you feel stuck even after doing everything right, this episode is for you.

Key Topics: Why high-achieving women are at greater risk of burnout and identity erosion Women in leadership leaving at higher rates due to unmanageable stress The Central Nervous System and Autonomic Nervous System, explained simply What nervous system dysregulation is — and its links to chronic illness Polyvagal Theory and Dr. Stephen Porges’ three-state model Ventral Vagal, Sympathetic, and Dorsal Vagal — what they feel like in real life Why more achievement can increase dysregulation instead of solving it Why you cannot force your way into your purpose How to show your nervous system that what you want is safe Two daily regulation tools: the Physiological Sigh and the State Check-In Your daily regulation practice — the nervous system gym

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