Wellness etc.

#23 | People Pleasing Is Not A Personality Trait

Wellness etc.

Show Notes

This episode is a conversation I've been wanting to have for a long time because people pleasing is one of those things that so many of us do without even realising it, and almost nobody is talking about where it actually comes from or what it's really costing us. So consider this a conversation with a friend. We're exploring why we learn to people please, what it gives us, and why the cost of being everything for everyone is that you forget how to be anything for yourself.

We cover: Where we learn to people please and why it made sense at the time What people pleasing actually gives us (because it's not all bad) The real cost of chronic people pleasing and what it does to your sense of self The throat chakra - what a blocked Vishuddha actually looks and feels like How to start finding your way back to your own voice

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