The neuroscience of resonance: How to use language to strengthen attachment with your child with Sarah Peyton Video
Securely AttachedShow Notes
Author, speaker, and neuroscience educator Sarah Peyton joins me to explore what happens when attachment theory, Nonviolent Communication, and the science of resonance come together.
Together we explore:
Why feeling understood is so important for your child's developing brain, nervous system, and sense of self.
The fascinating difference between empathy and resonance, and why that distinction matters in our relationships with our kids.
How your own attachment history can influence the way you respond when your child is upset, reactive, or pushing your buttons.
Why the same behavior from your child might barely bother you one day, and feel completely intolerable the next.
How Nonviolent Communication can help you look beneath your child's behavior and get curious about the feelings and needs driving it.
The surprising connection between secure attachment and independence, and why pushing children to become more independent can sometimes have the opposite effect.
How becoming more resonant with your child can begin to shift your own attachment patterns too.
Why changing the way you relate to your child doesn't happen overnight, but can profoundly change your relationship over time.
Whether you're trying to break patterns from your own childhood, understand why certain parenting moments feel so triggering, or simply want to feel more connected to your child, this conversation offers a fascinating new way to think about what it really means to feel seen, understood, and securely connected.
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST: 🔗 Sarah Peyton 📚 Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain's Capacity for Healing 📱IG: @sarahpeytonauthor FB: Empathy Brain YouTube: Sarah Peyton
LEARN MORE ABOUT ME: 🔗 Dr. Sarah Bren 🔗 Check out my group practice, Upshur Bren Psychology Group, offering therapy and coaching for individuals, children, parents, and families 📱IG: @drsarahbren
ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: 🎧 Learn more about what Nonviolent Communication is with Oren Jay Sofer
📚 The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.
📚 Parenting from Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection and Choice (Nonviolent Communication Guides) by Inbal Kashtan
👉 Looking for additional support? Upshur Bren Psychology Group helps children and adults heal from attachment wounds, relational trauma, and difficult early experiences, so you can feel more grounded in yourself and build healthier, more connected relationships with the people who matter most. Visit upshurbren.com to explore our services or schedule a free 30-minute consultation to find the right support for you.
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about how to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with it, with Dr. Miriam Steele
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about understanding sensitivity, resilience, and what really shapes kids with Dr. Jay Belsky
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about the lifelong impact of early relationships with Dr. Alan Sroufe
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