How to build a secure attachment with yourself: The connection between self-worth and parenting with Dr. Marisa G. Franco Video
Securely AttachedShow Notes
Dr. Marisa G. Franco, psychologist and author of the new book Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment, sits down with me to explore a side of attachment we don't talk about nearly enough: our relationship with ourselves.
Together we explore:
Why trying to "act secure" may actually leave you feeling more insecure.
What it really means to become "secure-ish," and why security doesn't require getting rid of your anxiety, insecurity, or uncomfortable emotions.
The surprising connection between attachment and self-worth, and why changing how you feel about yourself may require more than positive thinking.
How experiences from your past can become a blueprint for what you expect from relationships today, and the fascinating science suggesting that blueprint can be edited.
Why being the agreeable, easygoing person isn't always as healthy as it looks, and where all those suppressed emotions can eventually go.
What your relationship with your own emotions has to do with how you respond when your child is having big ones.
Why some parents find themselves losing it more with the people they love the most, even when they're working incredibly hard to stay calm.
How learning to welcome the parts of yourself you've spent years trying to change may be one of the most powerful ways to build genuine security from the inside out.
If you've ever wondered why you can understand secure attachment intellectually but still find yourself falling into old patterns, this conversation offers a very different way of thinking about what it actually means to feel secure, not just in your relationships, but within yourself.
LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST: 🔗 Dr. Marisa G. Franco 📚 Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment 📱 @drmarisagfranco
LEARN MORE ABOUT ME: 🔗 Dr. Sarah Bren 🔗 Check out my group practice, Upshur Bren Psychology Group, offering therapy and coaching for individuals, children, parents, and families 📱IG: @drsarahbren
ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: 🔗 Click HERE to download my free guide, The Four Pillars of Fostering Secure Attachment, helping you parent with a focus on attunement and trust.
👉 Want extra support in your parenting journey? Upshur Bren Psychology Group offers therapy and coaching to give parents the tools to feel more grounded and confident as they navigate parenthood and learn how to most effectively support their child. Visit upshurbren.com to explore our services and schedule a free 30-minute consultation call to find the support that's right for your family.
CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about fostering secure attachment relationships
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about how to support your child's secure attachment even if you didn't grow up with it, with Dr. Miriam Steele
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode with what children need from us at every stage of development to foster a secure attachment
🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about whether insecure attachment may not be as bad as we think with Dr. Or Dagan
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