Show Notes
Kaila Yu lived many lives before she decided to write a memoir. As an actress, musician, and import model, Kaila learned firsthand about all the ways it is challenging to be Asian American, particularly as a woman. But she didn’t write about that experience until seeing her fellow Asian Americans attacked and vilified in 2020.
Now a travel, food and culture writer, she has released a memoir titled Fetishized: A Reckoning with Yellow Fever, Feminism, and Beauty. In this book of essays, Kaila challenges the pressures Asian American women face to perform for the white male gaze and details some of the history surrounding that social pressure.
With Fetishized, Kaila is shining a bright light on a specific prejudice in our country and I am excited to amplify that light with our conversation today.
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Episode Chapters
0:00 Intro
1:31 How has Kaila’s memoir been received in the Asian American community?
2:52 A brief history of the fetishization of Asian women in America
11:43 Who was the intended audience for Kaila’s memoir?
15:23 Becoming an activist wasn’t part of Kaila’s plan
19:05 We are in a golden age for healthy Asian representation in American culture
21:42 The full scope of Kaila’s activism
25:48 Outro and Goodbye
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