Show Notes
This week we’re tackling the blurred line between banter and bullying — in schools and workplaces. Expect unhelpful answers, bad 90s flashbacks, and an AMA that goes places it probably shouldn’t (Clayton becomes a giggly teenager). 👉 A parent writes in about their 11-year-old son who’s being teased, taunted, and even left stranded without his schoolbag. The teachers say they’ll “keep an eye on it,” but the bullying hasn’t stopped. Do you pull him out to protect his confidence, or help him stick it out and build resilience? We weigh protection against preparation — with some raw 90s flashbacks along the way. 👉 Lee from Taranaki tells us she’s become the office punchline. As the oldest in her team, she’s bombarded with “harmless” age jokes about naps, TikTok, and slowing down. Should she laugh it off, or risk making things worse by calling it out? We explore the fine line between humour and harassment, and why “just joking” is rarely just joking. Finally, our AMA asks what Clayton would do with 24 hours as a woman, and who Suran’s celebrity hall pass would be. If you came for clarity, you’re in the wrong place. But if you came for honesty, laughter, and a reminder that you’re not alone in life’s messiness — you’re exactly where you should be.
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